“There’s something truly comforting — not in a bland, mask-the-pain way, but genuinely palliative — about the relationships on shows like “Friends,” or even its slightly edgier counterparts, from “Seinfeld” through “Community,”“Parks and Recreation,” and “30 Rock” (what can I say — I’m an NBC gal). On those shows, so vastly unlike in real life, bonds between people bend, but do not break.”
“This video, the song, it’s all about being homesick. And I was nothing if not homesick.
So I watched this video over and over again, too. And I cried and cried.
Until one day, I stopped.
The song came on internet radio during work. I wasn’t paying attention, probably designing a flyer. I noticed myself singing along—I had clearly learned all the lyrics at this point—and I wasn’t crying. I had listened to it so many times that I was desensitized. The melody had become familiar, the wind chimes at the beginning comforting instead of distressing.
I have found that this also works with painful memories.”
“If we continue to consider “dealbreakers” as a valid explanation for not going out with someone, we continue a shallow, often unfair consideration of the people we might end up really liking. More fair than listing voice, cologne, or hair length in explaining why we do or don’t like someone, perhaps we should accept that people aren’t the sum of their dealbreakers, having a type is wildly limiting, and sometimes you just don’t want to go out with someone.”
“For Valentine’s Day 2012, I will be single. I am completely okay with that, and you should be too. I have chosen not to be in a relationship right now, and that has made all the difference. Facing my situation with Ben and being completely aware of the fact that I was going to be the one to break it off taught me something: I had power. I have the power to choose whether or not I want to be single.”
“Embracing, deciding, identifying, choosing to be gay is saying ‘I won’t live by the standards that society has set up for me and I won’t feel bad about identifying with a group that isn’t the most popular or the most acceptable.’ It’s saying ‘I love who I want to love no matter what you think about how I became this way.’
Even if being gay was a choice, which it is for some, it shouldn’t matter that we love who we love.”